Rules to Live By.

So I have been looking for time to write this post. At least since I read "He's not that into you." Now I'll be honest, this is not a book to read when you're in a shaky place in your relationship. It'll just scare you. Some thing are rough, some things are too honest and others are just glaring. But I did pick out a few things I'd like to share. And that is what I am calling; Rules for women to live by.

Rule 55: ...Men are never too busy to get what they want. The word 'busy' is a weapon of mass destruction.

Rule 50: Calling when he says he's going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of trust and love. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house, baby. And its cold outside.

Rule 18: People are inspired to do remarkable things to find the one they love. Big movies are made about it, and every relationship you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your own life. And the more you value yourself, the more the chance you'll have to get it.

Rule 39: Just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. Some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.

Rule 91: Having a companion to wake up to is nice, especially if it is someone you like, but that's what pets are for. Pets are God's way of saying " Don't lower your bar just because you are lonely." You are better than a slumber party.

Rule 26: If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away.

Rule 29: Men for the most part, like to pursue women. They like not knowing if they can catch you. They feel rewarded when they do. Especially when the chase is a long one. They know women can run governments, heading multinationals and raise loving children- Sometimes all at the same time. That however does not deter men from being different.

Rule 33: If the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you in fact, are the one in control.

Rule 72: Relationships will always be about the guy who wants you, calls you, makes you feel sexy and desired fully. He wants to see you more and more often because every time he sees you, he likes and the loves you more and more.
Rule 38: If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you he will.

Rule 229: Being lonely, being alone, for most people, sucks. But being with someone who makes you feel crappy is worse.

Rule 48: ...If he likes you, he never forgets you, ever. No matter what. He will forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets you.

Rule 70: Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious. One way of doing this is laying claim to it. A man who's really into you is going to want you all to himself.

Rule 81: Better than nothing is not good enough for you!

Rule 87: If he were into you, he would be having a hard time keeping his paws off you. Oh, the simplicity of it all! If a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you.

Rule 104: He's not that into you if he's having sex with someone else. There's never a good excuse for cheating.

Rule 126: He's not that into you if he only wants to see you when he's drunk. If he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgement isn't impaired.

Rule 141: There's nothing wrong with wanting to get married. You shouldn't feel ashamed or needy or unliberated for wanting that. So make sure from the start you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and if not, move on as quickly as you can. Big plans require big action.

Rule 155: if you feel he's always holding something back, or that you are spending alot of energy trying to change yourself for something you think will make him happier, then divorce yourself from him and move on. Don't let him make you feel stupid for being yourself.

Rule 167: Its called break-up sex for a reason. No one has yet to rename it Oh-my-God-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after Sex. The sex is never that great.

Rule 176: You can't talk your way out of a break up. Its not up for discussion. A breakup is a definitive action not a democratic one.

Rule 191: When a man disappears on you, don't ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don't waste your heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did.... The only thing you need to know is that its really good news: He's gone. Hallelujah.

Rule 200: He's not that into you if he is married, or any other insane variation of being unavailable. If he's not available to love you freely, its not real love.

Rule 221: He doesn't have to love your CD collection. He doesn't have to love your shoes. But any good mature guy better make an effort to love your friends and family.

Rule 222: There's no reason ever to yell at someone unless you're screaming, " LOOK OUT FOR THAT BUS!". People who yell are people who have anger issues. Do you wnat to be that couple? The one the guy is always yelling at the wife? Even worse, do you want him to be that dad?

Rule 243: Sure. There are the stories. Guys that get pursued and end up being the love of his life.; the guy that treats this girl that he sometimes sleeps with like shit for a couple of years, but she keeps at him and he is now a devoted husband and father; the guy who doesn't call the girl he sleeps with for months and then he calls and they lived happily ever after...etc, etc. Don't listen to those stories. They don't help you. Tell your friends to stop telling you these stories.

Rule 245: You are exceptional, but not the exception!! Always think of yourself as the rule.

Always you can decide what you will or won't tolerate. You decide how it's going to be for you. Make sure you know what you stand for and what you believe in.