If you think you're not human,maybe you should visit Dr. Njenga...

We are human. That is what everyone who thinks they are special for their stupidity should be told. Human beings are primarily narcissistic and psychopathic i.e. we want everyone else to notice our accomplishments and yet we dont care about anyone elses'. We could blame it on Adam, Eve, the serpent or even the Big Bang Theory if we want. It still doesn't change the fact that everyone is mainly out for themselves.

We all do things for recognition. We want to be the best in our field, the best looking among our friends, the brightest among our peers. That's why we work so damn hard so that everyone out there knows what we are made of. The pastors and serial killers do it. The presidents and terrorists do it. you and me? We are not special. We just do not have a big enough audience.

Men are more psychopathic in the sense that they tend to be indifferent to everything that doesn't concern them. Not all of them may swing Onyancha style but it explains how they can so easily step on peoples' toes in the office, neighborhood or home without a second glance back. Or even how they can go binging with the boys for days on end without remembering they have loved ones at home worrying sick. It's how they get ahead.That's why they make such good employees....and bosses. Because they don't carry their emotions around with them on every project.

Women on the other hand are extremely narcissistic. It should explain my 30 pairs of shoes or the fact that all women (at least those who can afford it) buy a new dress for every useless event. We want to be the best and the prettiest. That's why we make the best models and sales people. We want to be seen, heard and stared at. That is why Chanel is in the Forbes list and plastic surgeons will still remain the richest doctors. That's probably why we are so talkative. Out talk, outshine, out walk is the female motto.

My point is this. Don't beat yourself up because everyone else thinks you are not sensitive enough or other people think you are selfish. They are probably just as bad. They only know how to hide it better. You don't need to blame the society,the sun, the house, the air. You are just human. Maybe occasionally we need to consciously think about others and their needs (of course that is if we don't want to be is-lands). We are born and trained to put ourselves first and everyone else a very distant second. Fight for your spot in society and after you think you have enough, maybe fight for someone else. If you don't think you have the above qualities, I suggest you check yourself into a self-evaluation class.