"Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection; and 'the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another'. Love may also be described as actions towards others or oneself based on compassion, or as actions towards others based on affection."If you think about it, you never knowingly hurt someone you truly love. You want the best for them, the best for their future. Ignoring them for days, kicking them when they are down, beating them, insulting them in public, does not constitute love. If we are to go with the simplicity of what love should be, we should listen to that chapter that is read over and over in all weddings. We should internalise it.
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails...But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13Think about it, the next time you are wondering why your woman is bringing you headaches, examine yourself, are you truly loving her. Are the things you are doing displaying the kind of love you want her passing to your children or her future children? Because believe it or not, how a woman acts is s reflection of your actions towards her.
So what is "Identity" - the distinctive character belonging to any given individual, or shared by all members of a particular social category or group.With this is mind, a vast majority of people describe themselves by their identity. "I am an engineer, IT specialist, writer, nani's daughter, whoever's friend." ; "I am someone because other people can identify me." We hang out with the cool kids so that 'cool' becomes our identity. We go to the 'uptown' places because that is where we want our identity to lie. No man is an island, and less so for a woman. Women hate being islands, much as they isolate themselves from time to time. One of the biggest identities that women hold onto is being "a man's someone". Someone's legit someone. I am yet to meet a clande who introduce's herself as " john, Jim or Jose's clande". They always say "I'm his girlfriend." If a woman does not know what her identity is as far as a relationship lies, it goes without saying that some day, she will tire and move on to find 'her identity'. Because, sad is it may sound, women value that identity. The fact that they belong is very important. In Steve Harvey's book, 'Act like a lady, Think like a man', he emphasises on the importance of "professing". If a man doesn't profess where a woman lies, then it is time for her to rethink her strategy. So, men, a woman is not nagging you because she is a nag....she just needs to know where she lies as far as you are concerned. This is an important lesson. If everything you are doing is behind closed doors,